It's Time To Vent

To Be A Good Parent - You Need To Be A Good Person

One of the reasons I never wanted children is because I am selfish. Well I was. I still am a bit but if you're even remotely human - children (and a husband) changes that. I wanted a nice clean house, a stable job, the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted and not consider other people (especially tiny, dirty or expensive ones) as part of the equation.

But when I married a man who had children - I accepted my life had to change. I am not the perfect step parent. Far from it. I lack patience, I do not wear blinders so I see their faults quite clearly, I lack the ability to communicate in a soft and comforting way. I tell it like it is. Take it or leave it. That's just who I am.

But I try. I give it everything I have, which may sometimes not be much, but I give it. I didn't choose to have kids. I chose to marry a man who did and while that may be the same thing to some, it's not to me. I will always do my best for them and I love them with my whole heart. However, they are not my children. I did not carry them in my womb and I simply do not have that natural motherly instinct I believe mothers should have.

So when I consider how much I give, how much I sacrifice and how hard I try - for these children who do not even belong to me - it absolutely burns my ass when I see parents, who spread their legs and create children willingly - being absolutely pathetic excuses for 'mothers' or 'fathers'.

If you birth'd or participated in the creation of a child. They're yours and they should always, always be your first priority. They're my first priority, why the hell aren't they YOURS? Don't spend all your money on your latest boyfriend and then complain you have none for diapers or daycare! Don't buy whatever man is tolerating you for the month expensive things and then put your kid in raggedly old torn up sneakers, three sizes too big and cry about how hard it is to make ends meet.

When you plan a vacation, include your kids! I do! I took them to Disney World, what have you done?

So the next time all you men or women out there post on Facebook about how amazing of a mother or father - and person you are, remember some of us know you in real life.

End Rant.