People Aren't Stupid

Well not all of them. There are some people who seem to make it their goal in life to convince you that they do not have a single functioning brain cell - so who are we to argue?

We all hear stories from time to time that leave us with one eyebrow raised and a trickle of doubt running through our minds. Oh who am I kidding? Sometimes it is like an effin Niagara Falls of doubt. But that's their life and their karma. When you lie and mislead people, you and you alone and left to suffer the retributions, so just be sure its worth it.

I don't know if there are humans on this planet who think they're above telling the truth or think they're more intelligent than they are - that there is just no way possible, their lie will be discovered. Please people, it all comes out in the end. Since my job involves interacting with people on the internet, from all over the world, I probably end up with more of these stories than the average bear. For some reason when people get behind the computer, they become what I call "Keyboard Warriors" - where they wouldn't necessarily behave in the same fashion as they would 'in real life'. They think they can get away with slandering someone else just because they don't have to directly face the repercussions. But the thing is - they do. You do.  Karma works in mysterious ways and it isn't usually immediate. So be weary and be careful and most of all - be honest and genuine.

Oh - and lying doesn't necessarily mean out and out telling someone a story that isn't true. It can also include NOT telling someone something that is important or hiding it - thinking they don't already know the difference. 'Forgetting' to include that your ex-boyfriend called and you spoke to him for an hour doesn't mean the conversation didn't happen. Deleting a text message doesn't mean the message wasn't sent. Stop trying to be so smart, it just makes you look stupid. I have always and will always say - if you have to hide something - you shouldn't be doing it.

Be an honest person. Every day. All Day. Not just when it's convenient. I am not saying you need to tell everyone, everything that is on your mind. Just don't deceive. Don't try to blindside someone - whether it be a close personal relationship - or someone on the other side of the computer screen. At the end of the day, it is a reflection of your character - not theirs.

Rejection. Ouch.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and it brought forth some interesting thoughts that I decided to put to paper. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship has likely, in some degree, felt rejection from their partner. Whether it be for an actual reason or simply because they weren't in the mood. And when I am talking about rejection - I don't necessarily mean sex you dirty pervs. It could be anything from spending time together, walking hand in hand, or going on a 'date night'. 

Rejection hurts - so when you do it, make sure you think about it. I think for women, it hurts more and lingers longer. When you say 'no' to something that is important to your partner, they're not likely to forget anytime soon so when it's time for you wanting something from them - you're probably not going to be received with open arms.

Is it fair? Probably not. But life never is. In a relationship, just because something isn't important to you - doesn't mean it's not important. If it's important to your partner is has to be important to you by default and it's your job not to minimize or trivialize their wants and desires. If you do, you're setting yourself up for a long and difficult relationship, especially if it becomes a habit. You're also setting up someone you supposedly love for a never ending wave of disappointment and it is possible someday they may decide not to surf anymore.

Morale of the story is. Suck it up buttercup, if he or she means anything to you, it'll be worth it in the long run. So suffer through, grin and bare it and be thankful someone is still there trying. Sure beats the alternative.

I'm Having A Day

You know the type. Where everything and everyone seems destined to annoy or irritate me. I am not sure if it is lack of sleep, patience or just being overwhelmed with the seemingly endless list of things that need to be done everyday, that fall on me and only me to consider/complete.

This is work, home, personal life, pets, kids. Lately it seems even remembering to breath is tiresome. I've also been battling some aches and pains of my own that I pretty much have to suck it up, ignore, grin and bare it because quite frankly - I don't have time or energy to worry about. I tell people I am hurting but it doesn't seem to matter to anyone else, so I guess why should it matter to me.

Alright, enough feeling sorry for myself! That gets old really fast too (Oh and please, I know... I know... I need to take care of myself, I am no good to anyone else if I am hurt, blah blah. I get it)

See? Truly irritable. Even my own whining up there ^^ has annoyed me.  So now I am going to complain about other people. Things I see that just bother me.

So there's this guy named God who is a dear friend of mine. Okay, more like a guide and savior. I've always believed in him - always. I just have a hard time with everything that is supposed to go with him. Namely - the bible and moreso, how it is left open to interpretation or how some people consider it not only their right but duty to judge others based upon how they perceive the written word. I don't care what passage you show me or how you twist the words to fit your belief spectrum - there isn't a soul on this planet who is the ultimate judge. Only the big man upstairs has the right (and ability) to do that. This is how I see it.

If I don't like alcohol. I don't have to drink it.
If I don't like gay people. I don't have to be gay.
If I don't like to swear. Then I don't have to fucking swear.

But what difference does it make what my neighbour does? Isn't that between him and God? Aren't those things he needs to worry about instead of me? Don't I have enough to focus on in my own life without sending other people to hell? Don't YOU?

Moving on.

If you hate drama. If you truly hate drama - you don't need to tell everyone how much you hate drama. You avoid it. You erase it. You remove it. You deflate it. You don't create it.

Also.

I've mentioned this before. Those people who suck? Specifically, the Do-For-Me'ers. I've seen some folks take this to an all-time new high. I know over the past few months I have reached out and asked for help. It pained me to do. Even more so, it pained me to accept it. Everytime I spent a dollar that was donated or ate a meal that was cooked, or accepted a ride that was offered - I always blinked back the tears (Still do) thanked God for my blessings and the people in my life and took a deep breath. It is hard asking for help.

But for some people out there? It's an art form! They don't just ask for help - they EXPECT it.  And when you give it, they act like they're doing you a favor. They're too busy crying over their own pathetic existence and blaming everyone else for their fuck ups in life that they end up missing out on amazing opportunities, chasing dreams, finding love, starting families, bettering themselves. That's sad. I don't understand it. I don't know how people can wake up and not do everything they know how to make it through the day. It's one thing to ask for help when you really need it. It's an entirely different thing to act like a slug and suck the life out of everyone who loves and cares for you, endlessly, and then suck a little bit more. You seriously suck. Literally AND figuratively.


Lastly,

When you post something on Facebook, expect a response. And understand that not everyone may agree with you. Don't throw a hissy fit if someone, somewhere, in this vast and complex planet may actually have a different perspective. Consider it, think about it and then decide if you care. If you don't, awesome. If you do, maybe it's food for thought.

Make Love. Not War.

P.S. Have I mentioned lately? I hate cancer.