Rejection. Ouch.

I was having a discussion with a friend of mine and it brought forth some interesting thoughts that I decided to put to paper. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship has likely, in some degree, felt rejection from their partner. Whether it be for an actual reason or simply because they weren't in the mood. And when I am talking about rejection - I don't necessarily mean sex you dirty pervs. It could be anything from spending time together, walking hand in hand, or going on a 'date night'. 

Rejection hurts - so when you do it, make sure you think about it. I think for women, it hurts more and lingers longer. When you say 'no' to something that is important to your partner, they're not likely to forget anytime soon so when it's time for you wanting something from them - you're probably not going to be received with open arms.

Is it fair? Probably not. But life never is. In a relationship, just because something isn't important to you - doesn't mean it's not important. If it's important to your partner is has to be important to you by default and it's your job not to minimize or trivialize their wants and desires. If you do, you're setting yourself up for a long and difficult relationship, especially if it becomes a habit. You're also setting up someone you supposedly love for a never ending wave of disappointment and it is possible someday they may decide not to surf anymore.

Morale of the story is. Suck it up buttercup, if he or she means anything to you, it'll be worth it in the long run. So suffer through, grin and bare it and be thankful someone is still there trying. Sure beats the alternative.